Let’s get real

Often times I wonder, am I sharing too much about personal things? Sometimes I turn the death of a loved one into a PSA about reason why you shouldn’t drink and drive, or I’ve written about struggles with food allergies and why they should be taken seriously.

Today I’m going to do it again, however this time it’s not a PSA but a new discovery in my life that happened recently (last week), I wanted to talk about this because I’m sure I’m going to have plenty of entries talking about new stuff and well here is the reason.

It all began last spring when I took the ancestrydna test, I wanted to learn more about where my family came from, I wanted to learn about every piece of my heritage, read about the countries and learn about their traditions, maybe even add some into my life.

A few things showed up and to be honest my reaction was “I’m part Icelandic? That’s so cool”, “Not, what?! Where did this come from?!”

Then they started to do dna matching, most names I recognized…and then a lot I didn’t. I got matched to a first cousin who I had never met before, I’m thinking someone in the family had a baby and gave it up for adoption, that was until I realized that this cousin was the same age as all my aunts and uncles.

I started asking questions and no one knew about this person. I started talking to this person and who last Monday put me in contact with a few more people and that is when I discovered that not only did I have a different biological father than my father who raised me, but I also have SIX half siblings.

Now my biological father passed in 2010, but I have been talking to four old my new half siblings, I’ve met three of them, and they have all been very welcoming. It’s been a very weird and overwhelming and anxious experience and well I just went from two half sisters to FIVE half sisters and three brothers.

I am thankful that I have had the support from my husband and kids during this, also my mother’s side as well as all the aunts and uncles from my dads side. Most of all I am thankful that even though it was an uncomfortable five minutes talking to my dad about what I found, we have carried on like normal, because I am his daughter and he is my father.

So this might be too much, but I wanted to share this news with you all because as I said, I will most likely be talking about this more or talking of new siblings.

Have a great day folks

4 thoughts on “Let’s get real

  1. Wow. That must have been quite a shock! A friend of mine found out that her sister had a baby and gave it up for adoption. This dna stuff is fun, but not all harmless, is it?

  2. So interesting, especially the Icelandic! We learned there was no dna evidence for an ancestral heritage that had been part of family lore for generations.

    As for learning about your father, there are so many stories like yours. I recently listened to an interview with Dani Shapiro, author of Inheritance: A Memior of Genealogy, Paternity, and Love, in which she tells her own story. Here’s the link to the interview:

    • Thank you for sharing the link, I will check it out! My boss had a similar experience as well and met her half sister last month. I joined an Ancestry dna group and I see several posts a day from people finding out they have family they didn’t know about.

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